Time for Self-Discovery

Sometimes it’s hard for me to make time for the things I want to do. Most of the time other seemingly pressing (but usually not really pressing) issues get in the way and I don’t get to do what I want. Curiously, I always find time to do the things I feel I need to do. I don’t like other people having more control over my time than I do, so I’m mindful not to let it happen too often.


This is not me, of course, I just liked the photo!

Going with my husband on one of his business trips is something I had wanted to do for some time and finally this past week I had to opportunity to go with him to Denver. Once we got there, I was mostly on my own while he was at work every day until late in the afternoon. What a fantastic opportunity for self-discovery this was! The city is very friendly and offers a ton of things to do, but I got a kick I out of being by myself in a new city, doing new things, deciding on what museums to visit, and where to eat without conferring or compromising; it turned out to be really exciting -I must admit I was a little apprehensive at first, but when the time came, I was very excited.


For one reason or another I had never had the opportunity to be a solo tourist for more than a few hours. Wise people say that you should travel alone at least once in your life, but I had never done it -this sort of counts as traveling alone, right? Thus, last week I made a point to enjoy those four days to the fullest… and I’m definitely making plans for doing it again.


It was an absolute pleasure to plan my days as I wished, to walk at my own pace, to sit down on a park bench to watch people walk their cute dogs, to window-shop as I pleased, to choose a restaurant for lunch just because I liked how it looked or what I saw on the menu. All little, simple yet meaningful micro adventures.


I must say that my husband and I are very good travelers together, we mostly like the same type of tourism, the same foods, the same places, but there is always some inevitable compromising here and there on both sides. Yet being mostly on my own in Denver, making my own decisions or not making a decision at all was just refreshing.


Since it was not technically a vacation, me being me, I had to bring my laptop and three books to read (a biography to read while having breakfast at Starbucks every morning, a work-related book for my afternoon reading while sipping tea, and a fiction for before bed.) Even my work routine was efficient because I did all the touristy things in the morning until mid-afternoon and then I went back to my hotel room and worked blissfully uninterrupted for hours.


Out of all of the awesome places I visited, the highlight of my trip was a wonderful, cozy old bookstore I discovered during one of my strolls around the city. A gem of a place. I decided to spend my last day in Denver working for hours from that place, that’s how wonderful it was. That was another plus of being on my own, I first entered this indie bookstore because I was curious and wanted to take a pick inside and ended up spending over an hour browsing the hundreds (thousands, maybe) of titles they carry. What a gift!


Introspection is one of the many positives I got from traveling alone

We are usually good at making time for the things that are a must for us or our family, yet we rarely make time for things that are not so obviously important, like time for us to grow as individuals. This trip is something I had wanted to do for a long time, but it never seemed to be the right time until I made up my mind, picked a date, and scheduled everything else around it.


We can make the time if we declare what we want to do a priority. Do not let more time pass by before you do what’s important to you because the right time may never come. I made it a priority and I made it happen. What do you want to make happen in the next month?